Thursday, August 1, 2013

Sidenote to the imposter

To the "Christian" blogger with the hidden agenda, you *should* know that GOD sees and hears EVERYTHING and would NEVER allow His daughter to walk into such a trap. Yeah... Best of luck to you.

On to real news...

Tuesday, July 9, 2013

Just Eeewwwww....

Yesterday was torturous. I awoke from a nap to a terrible sinus headache. Although it was not a migraine, the pain partnered with the slight dizziness from inner ear pressure had me close to the point of being violently ill. I went to the medicine cabinet for pain medication and discovered that I was out! (How do these things happen to me??!!) I knew I would not be able to take it for much longer, so I loaded up the kiddos and headed to the nearest store. While looking at the different pain relief options, I was approached by a man clearly into his fifties or more. I respect my elders, so I answered with as much politeness as my pain-consumed mind would allow. My politeness, however, quickly turned to coldness and then to anger.

Man: Hey, Pretty Lady. I just wanted to tell you that your hair is beautiful.
Me (remembering that I had flat-ironed it the previous day): Oh, thank you so much.
Man: You are very pretty.
Me (warily): Thank you.
Man: Yes, very pretty. I would love to take you out sometime.
Me (now completely agitated as I pointedly look at his wedding ring): Take me out? Really? So is your wife coming too?
Man: Ah, no. My wife knows how much I love women.
Me: Aw, Lawd, I can't. Sir, get the hell away from me.

What the what?!! Why do I get the pleasure of meeting all the deviants, the old ho's and the wanna-be playa-playa's? Do I have a sign that says "All applications accepted"? I wanted to blog about this last night, but I just had no words other than "Eeewwwww," and "Whyyyyy?"

That experience gives rise to a few other topics that I would like to discuss:
1.) Why do women stay in long-term relationships with serial cheaters (and vice-versa)?
2.) The signs that a man (or woman) is DWA Dating While Attached;
3.) Games men and women play in dating;
4.) Guarding one's heart without putting up insurmountable walls.

I'm sure there will be many more topics to come as a result of these, so be on the lookout for them this week; and be sure to comment because these are dialogues that really need to take place.

Have a terrific Tuesday, Loves!

Monday, July 8, 2013

Checking in...

A very dear friend checked in with me last night and noted that I had been very distant lately. There is nothing in particular going on. I have just been going through a period of inner reflection. To be honest, I did not even realize that I had turned off contact with much of the outside world. I felt awful when I really thought about it because I realized that I really had not talked to my friend in some time.

Charge it to my head and not my heart.

I am going through a state of change right now, and I really just have not had a lot to say. That is not to say that God has not been present and that He is not working in my life because He has been and He is. I even went out on a date the other day! (Yes, it was very nice.) However, I am just not ready to share those things right now. Part of the reason is that I am not even sure of the whats and wheres of everything myself right now. I am just taking it day by day, minute by minute, trying to intentionally live in each of the moments God blesses me with.

So if I am quiet for a minute, bear with me. If you know me well, then you also know that my quiet periods don't last very long, and I have LOTS to say!

Have a fabulous Monday, Loves!

Tuesday, July 2, 2013

Busy, busy...

Today has been a very busy day, and I have had no time to blog. I promise to be back tomorrow. I am currently deep in thought, trying to figure out how to take a situation that has arisen, and I took my first mini-hike today. I even found a great hiking spot to start tomorrow. Excited.

Have a great night, Loves.

Monday, July 1, 2013

On your mark, Get set...

For once, it seems, I am at a loss for words. Well, kinda.

No, nothing has happened. I just woke up with very little to discuss this morning. Today is my official day one of my journey, and it has already been modified. One thing was that I was supposed to have my FB account deactivated by today. Weird, but at the 11th hour, I received a friend request from someone very dear to me who is currently overseas. Because of the time difference, we have not had a chance to message, but it would be so much easier (and cheaper) to keep in touch through a social media site such as FB as opposed to calling and emailing back and forth. Gaaaah. So it looks like that monster has to stay in place for now until I can figure something else out. :(

My weekend was so nice! Aside from receiving some disturbing news the other day, life has been really good! I think I laughed and smiled for most of the last 3-4 days, and I got a chance to spend quality time with someone very special to me. It is amazing just how good life can be when you lay aside the things that constantly wear and tear you down. I am finally beginning to make time for living, and it sure feels nice! It's funny how life-affirming and life-changing something simple can be once it clicks for us.

And you know what? True happiness is not about finding a mate or being the best at things no one remembers, or even losing that last 10, 20, or however many pounds. It is about taking this sliver of space and time God has granted us and making the choice to ride it until the wheels fall off. Along the way, something interesting happens. You find that you become more attractive to a whole lot more people. Why? Because, like a moth to a flame, people are attracted to happy, confident people who know how to live. So let's get to living.

On your mark, get set, GO!

Sunday, June 30, 2013

New 'do... for now

One thing that I've really wanted to do was to find a protective hairstyle that I like so that my hair can grow healthily, with minimal chemicals and stress. Since my hairstylist could not get me in until Wednesday, I decided to "try" something on my own to get me through until then. If I messed up, no major biggie because I still have an appointment next week. However, if I did like it, then I will have saved myself a lot of money.

What's the worst that could happen, right?

Since I was not planning to use any major chemicals, I decided to forge ahead. After watching a few YouTube videos on installing different weaves, I felt I could do it. Below is the look I finally finished after midnight. Sorry that the only one I took shows my exhaustion and lack of sleep from the last few days.

Now, a couple of things about this picture. 1. The picture is from the moment I finished the install and cut some of the front, but before I actually styled it. 2. I had to crop the pic because I was wearing a v-cut maxi dress and my "girls" were trying to make their film debut or something; they were all front and center, ready for their close-up! 3. I am not sure why the angle or the lighting has me looking like I have a busted (or just very weird) grill. LOL.

I do like the look, overall, and this was definitely a learning experience. Already, I know what I would do differently if I ever decide to do this again. I'm thinking I may just experiment with lots of different looks this way. Chime in and tell me yay or nay on each look.

Have a terrific Sunday, Loves!

Saturday, June 29, 2013

Everything Must Change

According to Greek philosopher, Heraclitus, "The only thing constant is change."

I am currently going through a period of renewal in my life. In order to truly do this, I am going to have to make some much-needed changes. I walked through every room of my apartment this morning and saw just how cluttered my physical space is. It is not dirty or anything; there is just too much stuff. Then I thought about my sleep patterns (or lack thereof) and realized that I am mentally cluttered as well. In short, I have so many things going on that I am not doing ANY of them as well as I could. Soooo...

Time to get rid of the excess "stuff" in my life to actually make room for the blessings headed my way!

I have a plan that is beginning to shape up nicely. The first thing I have done is deactivated dating site accounts. I will be letting go of all social media (except for this blog) by July 1 as well. I just do not have time for all of that. I love my friends and extended friendships dearly, but those who are really important know my number and email addresses. I also plan to commit to a workable schedule that makes sense. I need to go to bed at a decent hour and get proper rest. As part of that schedule, I need to spend quiet time alone with The Lord, commit at least an hour each day for working out, and spend more time cooking healthy meals. with us always on the go, we are eating far too much by way of processed, high-fat, crappy foods. The short of it is that I, simply, need to guard and be much more selfish about my time. Lord knows, if I do not respect my time, no one else will have respect for it either!

Anyway, this list is just a start. I do not want to lay all of the specifics out on Blogger at this time, and things will become even clearer as I get underway. I don't know what it is, but I feel that there is something FAR bigger for me at the end of this process.

See you on the journey!